Let it go!!

When we get hurt by thorns, what we do?

Take it out and let it heal, or do we allow thorns to reside in our body and be a part of it.

Do we get attached to the thorns?

Definitely, not. We don't allow it to be a permanent part of our body and we want to get rid of it at the earliest. We can never fall in love with these thorns, we never get attached to these thorns and we want to get them away from us.

But, why we can't live with the thorns?

Because we know that if we will allow it to be inside, it will continue hurting and paining. It can do no good to our body. Also, depending on the type of thorn, there may be chances of poison being spread to entire body. We don't want to take a chance and risk our body. So, better take it out and let it go.

Then why do we follow a different approach in case of thorns, which should be better described as PAINFUL THOUGHTS, related to unhappy events of our life, to be a permanent part of our body. Just like painful thorns these mournful thoughts are going to make our life miserable, they are going to spread the poison in our entire body, they are going to destroy our body and emotions. They are doing no good to us.

Then why we don't take them out of our body, why allow them to reside in our mind and allow them to make a permanent place there.

Why can't we follow the same approach for these painful thoughts as well?

From today onwards, let us start following the same approach. Let us take out all these thorns out of our body and be at peace. Let these painful thoughts of past be not allowed to enter our future. Let them be here only. Let us not allow them to be a part of us anymore.

LET IT GO!!!
JUST, LET IT GO!!!!

Past is gone, future is on,
Don't regret, for what has gone.
Believe in god, he is there,
Give one BIG SMILE and take care.

January 1.... Does anything changes with the New Year??

January 1,

A special date in everyone's dairy.. Marking the start of a fresh new year, gifted from GOD.....

Another year of hopes,
Another year of dreams,
Another year of opportunities,
Another year of growth....

Today morning when I was sitting with my pen and dairy to set goal for this new beginning, after long thought process, I felt something different...

Why January 1?

Why not December 31?

The date that marks the end of the year of achievements.

Date to analyse journey till date,
Date to evaluate decisions taken,
Date to assess our competencies,
Date to plan further......

To continue with the journey and be on path of achieving more without a break.

Its not important to set goals, its important to achieve goals.

Celebrate the new beginning, but don't forget the achievements.

Let us decide that, this year when we reach December 31 in our calendar, we will make sure that we have the

feeling of fulfillment,
feeling of accomplishment,
feeling of completion,
feeling of gratefulness...

Happy new beginning to all the readers....

Is empathy always good?

We always hear that being empathetic is a great quality. 

We should be empathetic. 

Showing empathy means we should consider ourself to be in other persons situation, feel their feelings and try to understand.

Humans have this quality by grace of god, some have it more some have it less. It can be developed or acquired from experience as well. Once we grow in relationships we try to empathise more with others, to adjust with them and understand them more. Be it a relation of parent and kid, husband and wife, teacher and student, friends, lovers, siblings, colleagues, in laws, or any other relation in this world.

Be empathetic, is what we always try to do...

But something made me rethink all this reality.... 

Every morning I open newspaper taking sip of my tea, sitting in my balcony, enjoying the nature, with a light music in the background, thinking to get refreshed and charged up for the day.

When I start having glance on each page of newspaper, one by one, I generally end up being tensed, over the news of crimes, accidents, rapes, kidnapping, murders and so on. 

I feel like ruining my time over newspaper, I feel guilty of reading those news which contribute fully in disturbing my thoughts, feeling that I should not have read those news. 

Today morning after going through all this torture, I was in deep thinking as to, why do we feel bad when we read such news or when we see sad movies or hear sad songs. Why do we start crying with them, as if all that is happening with us.

Then I realised, its all the magic of empathy, we start visualising ourself in those situations, as if all that is happening with us and we start crying. When someone is in a bad situation, we start visualizing their feelings and then, after overthinking we start relating the incidents to ourself. We start relating their experiences to our own life. We start putting ourself in their shoes.

What if this would have happened with me or with my closed one? How would I have been feeling? We experience all that, without really going through that situation.

And in the end we feel so stressed out, that we start living in that trauma. Sometimes finding very difficult to come out of the stress.

Empathy is good, to understand the mental or emotional status of the other person as far as we are concerned directly for that person. But when we start relating their situations to our life, it becomes a burden.

Put yourself in other persons shoes to experience their emotional status but don’t start visualizing yourself in their situation. Don’t relate their life experiences to your own life. Don’t suffer from the trauma which other person may be suffering from.

Empathise but don't OVER Empathise....

Have a stress free life!!!!

When to appreciate?

How many of us love to hear word of appreciation from others??
Its the easiest question to answer, I guess.

Despite knowing the truth that every being on earth, including the very small kids, love to be appreciated. How many of us really do this act, to make others happy?

A very small percentage of people really feel the need to appreciate others, though they have the urge to be appreciated.

When someone appreciates, it makes us happy. Then, why can't we appreciate and spread happiness.

Why we have to wait for some specific moments to appreciate?
Why can't we simply appreciate, from heart?
Why we look for a reason to appreciate?

The sole reason to appreciate someone is: to make them happy. Giving happiness, is the ultimate source of getting happiness. When you see someone smiling because of you, you can't stop yourself from smiling.

When you give happiness, you show you care.
When you acknowledge efforts, you show you notice.
When you express gratitude, you show you respect.
When you give love, you ensure you are being loved.

Let us all start developing this habit, of genuinely appreciating others. Atleast once in a day we have to appreciate someone.

Let us start from today. Just think of someone whom you can appreciate, your kids, your parents, your friends, your spouse, your mentor, your siblings, it could be anyone who has ever been a part of your life at any point of time.

Hope to see appreciation spreading everywhere..